Studies show that in some areas, other people know us better than we know ourselves.
You might have noticed this yourself. I have as well. It’s really eye-opening how blind people can be to themselves, as smart, popular, and successful (achievement-wise and wealth-wise) they may be or seem. And this happens to all of us. It happens to the best of us. We all have our blind spots.
Open your mind, be curious, start learning
You don’t have to change your whole lifestyle, you just have to change your approach to life. Just because your reality is one way doesn’t mean that’s the be-all-end-all reality. There is so much hidden potential in all of us and endless possibilities in what we can become and make of our lives.
Start being more curious. Your brain is like a sponge. It seeks to constantly take in information. Feed it. All it takes is one little idea to have a breakthrough or a life-changing moment. Also, one of the ways to take care of your brain is to develop a habit of learning.
Accept everything that is
Acceptance builds the bridge between what is and what can be. There is no change and growth without acceptance first.
Acceptance is similar to forgiveness in that you stop resisting, rejecting, and holding on to negative emotions that no longer serve you. And it frees you to allow you to move forward.
Change is essential to personal growth. Personal growth is just positive change. There are myths and misconceptions about change that we can sometimes believe and hold onto which I write about in the article Why We Need to Change the Way We Look at Change.
Change is a natural part of life, but it can be positive change if we take control of it with personal development.
You shouldn’t be positive in a delusional way, and neither should you begin picking yourself apart, magnifying everything that’s wrong with you, and everything that you want to change.
I’ve mentioned in my last article, what is personal growth that a huge part of personal development is changing the relationship with yourself. You have to get to know yourself well. With that, you have to be realistic with yourself about both your strengths and weaknesses as well as both the opportunities and obstacles or threats in your life.
Learn to let go
Personal growth is not just about bringing in new things into your life, it’s about eliminating things as well. Just as much as you have to learn, you will have to unlearn as well.
Letting go of things that no longer serve you can be freeing and relieving. It opens up space in your life and mind for better and more essential things that serve you better.
Live with purpose and intention (deliberate practice)
Instead of hoping and wishing for something, intend for it to happen. This is something that is more so prevalent for relationships rather than business and career.
For example, someone who’s been divorced a few times reconnects with an old flame may say something like, “I like him. I really hope it works out this time around.” Albeit it can happen in work-related scenarios like saying “I hope I get promoted.” instead of “I’m going to ask for a raise.”
Instead of leaving it up to external factors, circumstances, “fate” or other people, learn to live purposefully and intentionally. Take control of your life and how you want it to go.
You are the leading actor, play-writer, and director of the movie that is your life.